A New Endeavor Coming Soon

Happy Leap Day, everyone!  This is a day for making up lost time, for taking chances that don’t come around very often.  In that light, I am very pleased to announce a new project to be launched on March 21: my very first online publication of fiction, “Tales of Love from the Stolen Earth.”  The website may look like an ordinary blog, but don’t be fooled.  I am running it entirely in the persona of a very special entity: Asa’el, principality cupid, probationary first wing, north-west quadrant.  That’s right—in just a few weeks, I will be getting my wings.

Asa’el lives in a world where angels are not the primary warriors in the battle against the Enemy.  Angels, having no free will of their own, no uniqueness, do not have the same power that humans do.  With that power invested in us comes risk, however, as we can choose to use it wrongly.  Angels, then, serve as guides in everything we do.  There are Fortunes who guide the good and back luck in our lives, Justices who watch out for right versus wrong, Guardians who protect us from physical and spiritual dangers, and yes, Cupids, whose role it is to protect love in all its forms.

A new cupid, Asa’el is journeying to the Stolen Earth—the Garden claimed by the Enemy in the Fall—to begin his first assignment with a human couple.  He is a great lover of stories and information, and believes that he must contribute to the Repository—the heavenly collection of universal knowledge.  For this, he has chosen a human method, and thus, his blog recounting his work to his fellow angels.

I’ve been very interested lately in viewpoints of humanity from outside of humanity.  The main character of my science fiction novel, Youngest, is one of those; now Asa’el is another.  It’s been refreshing to work in his voice, which is much more cheerful and humorous than Youngest’s.  Trust me, though, it isn’t going to be all hearts and roses for our newest Cupid friend.  He will face discrimination, miscommunication, sin and pain, disappointment, and a very challenging redheaded woman.

I’m very excited about this project, and I hope you will be, too.  The first post will go up on the first day of spring when a new year of love begins.  Stolen Earth is my first foray into the world of online publication, and I’m leaping in.  Here’s hoping my Guardian is with me!

Note: I owe thanks to Rob Mening for assistance in setting up the blog site.  If you’re also looking into starting something new online, definitely check out his free online guide at http://websitesetup.org/.  It was an enormous help for me!

Happy Love-Is-Expensive Day

Image credit iMore.com

This weekend included a very special day: Valentine’s.  The annual celebration of love, companionship, and mandated gifts passed with very little fanfare for me, which is a good thing, seeing as I am single.  I am used to disappointment and depression on this day; being surrounded by bright advertisements encouraging me to show the one I love how much I care inevitably reminds me that I don’t have anyone I love—not in the respect the ads mean, anyway.  And a “galentine” is not the same thing.

This year, however, I noticed that many of my non-single friends were not enjoying the holiday very much, either.  A dear friend was upset that her boyfriend’s plans didn’t line up with her expectations, while another couple’s romantic hike into the woods was snowed out and considerably more frigid than romantic.  One more recent pair was anxious for a week about what to get the other for their first Valentine’s, and I’m not sure they even saw each other for more than an hour or so.  High expectations, high standards, miscommunication, and the stress of long anticipation can make the holiday into a disaster.  So I can’t help but wonder—if the holiday makes this many people unhappy, why have it?  Whose idea was this, anyway?

I believe in starting at the beginning in most of my endeavors, and so I’m going back all the way to 269, which according to catholic.org is the year that the man himself was martyred (of course, it might also have been 270, 273, or 280).  St. Valentine of Rome is the patron saint of love, young people, and happy marriages (also bee keepers, epilepsy, fainting, greetings, travelers, and plague, but those are less relevant).  Not much is known about this man; one story is that in response to a judge’s test of his faith, Valentine healed the man’s blind daughter, restoring her sight and gaining the judge’s conversion to Christianity in the process.  He was later imprisoned in Rome for aiding Christians and performing marriages, both serious crimes according to Emperor Claudius.  Apparently Valentine and Claudius met and even became friends for a while, until Valentine tried to talk the emperor into converting.  At that point all bets were off: Claudius sentenced Valentine to death if he didn’t renounce his faith; when he didn’t, Valentine was beheaded.

This, or varying accounts of the same, is all that’s known about Valentine.  Interestingly, the Catholic church removed Valentine from the calendar in 1969, citing too little information on him, though they still acknowledge him as a saint.  Given as I am to thinking of Valentine’s Day as a secular holiday, I thought that might have been the time the flower companies and Hallmark might have co-opted the day for their own profit, but it turns out Valentine’s Day is a lot older than that.  In the usual habit of the church carefully placing their holidays to take in pagan celebrations, St. Valentine’s Day was declared to be February 14 by Pope Gelasius, who was probably trying to stomp out Lupercalia, a Roman fertility festival.  The festival involved a kind of love-lottery, with eligible men drawing out names of young women from a big urn.  A few centuries down the line, in the Middle Ages, the assumption that mid-February was the beginning of birds’ mating season cemented the day’s association with romance.  Written valentines began to appear after 1400, the oldest we know of being a note from a prisoner to his wife in 1415.

Valentine’s Day began to be celebrated in Great Britain around the 17^th century, meaning that the American colonists brought the custom along with them.  For today’s elaborate Valentine industry, however, we can thank a woman named Esther Howland.  Howland’s father owned a book and stationery store in the 1800s, setting her at an advantage to make fine cards out of lace and fine paper.  She started her own business out of it in the 1850s, setting a trend in America for the next thirty years.  Back then the cards were elaborate, usually hand-made, and not usually expensive.  These days about 25% of cards sent through the postal system are valentines.

That explains cards.  What about the other two gift clichés—flowers and chocolate?  Both of those as Valentine’s Day gifts go back to the 17^th century as well.  Roses were the flower of choice then as they are now, as they symbolize love in all forms.  Chocolate, aside from being delicious, was soon discovered to be an aphrodisiac, which explains itself, I am sure.

The rest—teddy bears, jewelry, fancy dinners—evolve out of attempts by businesses to capitalize on the holiday.  Though it’s common knowledge that one cannot buy love, the media and the economy sure do want us to try.  That’s not my problem—that is what the media and the economy are supposed to do, after all.  What bothers me is that modern customs of Valentine’s Day are obscuring the traditional sweetness of the holiday.  Fewer and fewer hand-written cards are being sent in favor of terse emails or texts, while most people have forgotten that once Valentine’s Day was a chance for someone to express an anonymous attraction to a person to whom they are not (yet) attached.  The day now seems to be reserved for existing relationships, to the icy exclusion of those of us who are alone.

I vote that we put a little more thought into this holiday, putting a bit more sentiment into it and a bit less cash.  Instead of making expensive reservations, maybe try to remember whether they’ve paused to look at a certain item in a store more than once.  Instead of a mass-produced card with a not-anatomically-correct heart on it, maybe just write them a note saying something you would be embarrassed to say aloud.  After all, the important thing is not how much money you spend, but how much you think about the person across the table from you.  And those of us who are single, stop worrying about the commercials or the sales.  Spread a little love to friends and family, or take this opportunity to say something to someone who doesn’t know how much you think about them.  And definitely hit up those candy sales on the 15^th.

Sources:

"St. Valentine."  Catholic Online.

"History of Valentine's Day."  History.com.

"Esther Howland: Mother of the American Valentine."  Victorian Treasury.

"Valentine's Day History."  Borgna Brunner, infoplease.com.

"The History of Valentine's Day Gift Traditions."  Streetdirectory.com.

"Valentine's Day is Over-rated."  Pauline Wallin, PhD, About.com Mental Health.

"Call Me Unromantic, but Valentine's Day is Grossly Over-Commercialized."  Alexander Chancellor, The Guardian.com.

2015 in Retrospect

Happy New Year!  As to my lateness…all I have to say is yikes.  In my defense, though, I have spent the past two weeks on holiday, so I’m really only three weeks or so late.  In any case, here is my usual runthrough of the previous year.

January began with a bout of responsibility.  I arranged a formal family portrait with siblings in three different states, hosted a dinner with friends (that this dinner consisted of mac and cheese does not, in my opinion, diminish the maturity of this act), and even visited a doctor for a long overdue checkup.  February followed in a rush of snow, effectively wiping out that responsibility as I spent a good portion of it at home in my pajamas, glad that I didn’t have to go to work.  In March I was sociable, having a sushi picnic with an old friend (it was rather cold, but we managed), lunch with another, and many, many pots of tea shared with others.

April was the first notable date, as I set off with a friend into New York City.  I’d never been, and it really was a treat to go and see it.  We hit the highlights: Times Square (we tried to find one another there at one point, and let me tell you, Waldo would be right at home in that place), the Empire State building (102 floors of standing in line), the Met (that’s the museum, not the opera, unfortunately), Central Park (briefly; it was cold), bagels (the BEST food that we had the whole trip, I promise you), the Statue of Liberty (though we failed to plan ahead and so could only wave at her from a boat), and even Broadway (checked Les Mis off my bucket list!  Though I am so sure I will go again).  Through it all I had an irascible redhead trailing me, teaching me first that it’s a good idea to discuss what exactly each member of the party is interested in seeing, and second that it’s all right to split up occasionally, especially if you are both responsible adults and capable of making your way around a strange place alone.  (Then again, that might have been called into doubt with the two of us.)  All in all, it was one of those places where even as I went through, I was compiling a list of things I will want to see when I go back, as I certainly will.

I have to add one more note to April: two weeks after my return from NYC, I had the amazing chance to go and see Jane Goodall speak.  One of the most well-known people to come to Hollins since my attendance there, she packed two buildings to standing-room-only.  I was absolutely starstruck: she’s a wonderful lady and such an inspiration.  One for the grandkids, someday.

May was busy, as it usually is, with weddings and graduations.  Fortunately, they didn’t happen all in the same weekend, as was the case the year I graduated from college.  I attended my friend Sarah’s wedding the weekend before the graduations at Elon and Hollins Universities.  Those two did happen the same weekend, but on different days, so I managed to make it to both, though it was a lot of driving.  I enjoyed both ceremonies, though.  Graduations always make me think about what I would talk about, if I someday get to the point where people might want my advice.  I haven’t come up with anything good yet, to be honest.

June’s item of note was an old friend walking into the restaurant with her parents, completely unaware that I worked there.  We both screamed aloud at sight of one another and made a bit of a scene, but I hope that most humans wouldn’t mind that kind of scene too much.  It was lovely to see her—she used to be my shadow, and now she’s grown up into a beautiful young lady.  Towards the end of the month, I took on a long-term housesitting job, which was actually rather enjoyable.  The first night in someone else’s house is always difficult, even a little creepy—you feel like an unwelcome addition to the place, and the sensation of not belonging is very marked.  But once you get used to being in the new place, it can actually be quite novel and refreshing.

Starting in July, I began to take on a bit more responsibility at work, moving up into a part-time management position.  This involved a trip out of town to take a ten-hour certification course in food safety (a thrilling subject, to be sure, though I’d recommend whoever takes such a course to have a strong stomach).  The trip was eventful in some of the worst ways and none of the best.  Trouble with the wifi meant that only half of the class could test at a time, and I was not in the first class.  Then, on the way home, there was a vicious storm, and I’m fairly certain I thought I was going to die.  Thankfully, I didn’t, but I’d be grateful never to have to repeat the journey.

August took me in a new direction, as my roommate Kathryn and I prepared to move out of our apartment (affectionately dubbed Tookbank).  We wanted to find a house to rent, for more space and more privacy, and while we had a bit of trouble at first, we managed to find a small place not far from where we were, but in a much quieter area.  We took most of September to accomplish the move, which was expensive, but so worth it.  Now we are comfortably settled in a little white house we call the Southern March, so that we can be the hermits of the same.

The other notable event of September was the first party I have ever helped to plan.  It was a very special party—every guest was assigned a character, and these characters were given a murder to solve.  I helped write the “script” for the characters, and I was responsible for supervising the role play, which culminated in a daring rescue and a proposal which was happily accepted.  It was a blast, and now I have another wedding to attend this coming year.

October and November were filled with settling into the new house, which seemed to take forever even after all of our things were in the same place.  Putting up shelves, hanging pictures, transferring internet services and figuring out gas heating…  The house didn’t really become a home, however, until after the arrival of a motherless kitten whom we decided to name Calypso. 

I did have one distraction from playing house in a new commitment to the Roanoke Symphony Chorus, a volunteer choir attached to the local orchestra, which really is an impressive group.  It was such a pleasure to be part of a choir again—I hadn’t been in a real choir since graduation.  Our performances all went well, and I am back again this spring.

December always lends itself to Christmas, which was filled with the usual—family, food, and idle days.  Thanks to a bit of confusion in my schedule, I had six days at home rather than four, which was a pleasure.  My sister and her boyfriend came down from New York, my brother was up from South Carolina, and we were all relatively civil to one another.  In all seriousness, though, it was a beautiful holiday and a lovely year. 

That being said, 2016 is the year I turn twenty-six, which just so happens to be my lucky number.  I have high hopes for this year, and I intend to go out and get it.  Wish me luck!